Happy Birthday, Mom

Today is my mom’s birthday! I won’t be able to celebrate with her because she passed away years ago, but that doesn’t stop me from celebrating her! I decided awhile back, that instead of having it be a sad day, I would turn it into a joy filled day. “Grandma Sally’s birthday” means we all get treats! My mom loved margaritas, so my sister and I try to make sure to enjoy one for her. It’s a decision to celebrate her life instead of her death, but it is never really an easy choice to make. I’d much rather call her and sing or sit with her, to enjoy that margarita. It’s a choice I no longer have, but my faith says that if she is in the glory of heaven, that I can beg her to pray for me. I can reach out to her, as we reach out to the communion of the saints.

In times of pain there are always things we wish, right?

  • I wish that my kids could make her a “Happy Birthday Grandma” card.

  • I wish I could tell her how much she means to me.

  • I wish I could thank her for all the ways she loved my when I was a child.

  • I wish I could tell her all the ways my children have grown over the years.

  • I wish I could send her the picture of my son pretending to be a scientist with his bug collection.

  • I wish I could call her when parenting is hard and I feel like I’m failing as a mom.

In times of pain, I can choose to be sad and feel empty and abandoned or I can choose to trust in the Easter promise of the Resurrection! I can choose to believe the Lord when He says, “Peace be with you.” (Lk. 24:36) I can believe Him when He says that He conquered death. I can believe Him when He says, “Blessed are they who mourn, for they will be comforted.” (Mt. 5:4)

His promises are true and his mercy is endless. Finally I can claim the words in the closing prayer of The Divine Mercy Chaplet: Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion, inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to Your holy will, which is love and mercy itself.

So I’ll wish my mom a happy birthday and make sure to enjoy a treat! Mom, if you’re up there celebrating with Jesus, please pray for your grandchildren and for me, that I can be the kind of mom that you were to me!

Happy Birthday, Mom! I love you and I miss you like crazy!

Courtney VallejoComment