So What Is It That You Do All Day?

I wanted to share this blog post that I had written years ago, before becoming a mom. When my husband and I got married, we were living in different cities. I was teaching at the time. We had decided we both wanted me to stay home with our future family so I moved to the city where he lived and had a job. One day I had a friend ask me the well-known question - “So what is it that you do all day?” Now that I’m raising children, anyone who asks me that question, gets an earful, but even back then I had a lot to say in response. Here’s to remembering back to a “simpler time.”

“So What Is It That You Do All Day?”
The Story Of A Real Housewife (And No I’m Not From Atlanta!)

This morning, as my husband’s alarm went off, all I could think about was going back to sleep, after my husband left for work. I just had to make his breakfast and lunch and then Nacho (our miniature Dachshund) and I could go back to sleep! I mean I didn’t think I had that much to do today, or so I thought, as I began to create my to-do list in my head.

1. Go grocery shopping. I hadn’t been since before Christmas, and we were gone for two weeks on vacation. Since we’d gotten back, we’d been living on such delicacies as cereal, frozen salmon with macaroni and cheese and turkey sandwiches. Basically I’d been stalling until my Costco coupons became effective, which is today! Yes, my life i based around Costco coupons and to be honest, I get really excited when they show up in the mail.

2. Deal with fleas. I just noticed, that my dog still has fleas, even though my husband gave him a flea bath last night, and that means that all of his freshly washed blankets have fleas as well. His cage will have to be cleaned. I’ll need to wash all his toys, and I can’t go grocery shopping until I clean his cage since he stays in there while I’m gone.

3. Go to the bank. I need to go to the bank to take out money for our tithing. The money needs to be donated to the youth program we just took over, or should I say got talked into, which reminds me…

4. Plan Confirmation retreat. I need to get stuff together for the Confirmation retreat, which I just found out that, I am expected to create and staff. Well, maybe I technically volunteered for this, because I love running retreats and get kind of crazy if I’m not in charge, let’s be honest.

5. Go to the post office. I need to mail my sister’s Christmas present. I was supposed to hand deliver it – long story and I also need to send my cousin’s belated wedding present.

6. Go to Bed, Bath and Beyond, to exchange the overpriced pillow shams. I can not, in good conscience spend that much money on pillow shams, even if I have a gift card to use. Anyway, we need pillowcases. My husband can’t stand sleeping on a pillow without a pillowcase. We did have pillowcases before we left for Christmas, but I think they got lost in the laundry somewhere along the way. We thought that bringing our own pillows on our two-week vacation would be a smart plan, since we never knew where we were sleeping. Side note, everyone should plan a two-week trip where you roam from relative to relative and enjoy having other people cook for you! If I could find our pillowcases, I could wash them, which reminds me that we need dryer sheets. There is a Costco coupon for that, so I’ve been waiting to do laundry. Gotta go to Costco, have to take care of the fleas first – still need a grocery list.

7. Make grocery list. Before making said grocery list, I have to figure out how Weight Watchers works (on my own in 10 Minutes or less), Since my husband just started using his points again. We were going to make a grocery list together so he could explain the points thing, but somehow that didn’t happen and instead he just handed the booklets to me this morning and said he likes apples, string cheese and something else (check the book for snack ideas).

8. Don’t forget to plan and cook dinner for the Core Team meeting tonight. Assume 8-10 people. We are going to Mass first, so it has to be something that can be cooked before we leave and warmed up quickly after Mass, think Crockpot. Have to be at Church at 5:15 – still have to do laundry and deal with the fleas!

And my working friends look at me with pity on their face and ask, “So what is it that you do all day? Don’t you get bored?” While I don’t sit at an office, and I may not be making “world changing” decisions everyday, my job is a 24-7 job. I don’t clock out. If my husband gets home late from work, I fix his dinner then, and it’s not considered “over time.” I am grateful I get to stay home. I’m thankful that we have the weekend to relax and be together, since the housework is done during the week. I’m blessed to get to volunteer at the church whenever I want. I’m grateful that when my husband overheard someone telling me I should go back to work full-time, then told me, “I really like having you home.” While I may experience different hurdles than the “average working person,” I have my own hurdles, like for example those fleas. They are my responsibility and I need to take care of them, so my husband doesn’t have to when he gets home. I’m training myself to live on a budget and while my trips to Costco can be rather lengthy as I compare prices on all the laundry detergent, I’m proud of the way I can make a dollar stretch. I’m proud of the way I respect the money that my husband works hard to make. And if living on a single salary means that I can spend weekends relaxing with my husband and someday ,God willing ,be there for the first steps of our children or for the moments that just need a Band-Aid and a kiss, then I’ll put back those  new jeans and I’ll shop at thrift stores. But I really better do something about those fleas! Check Costco coupons for flea medication.

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